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As humans, we all deal with a variety of feelings and emotions including love, hate, sadness, joy, confusion, enlightenment and so on.
One of the most powerful of all human emotions is anger. Some people become so overwhelmed by anger that they habitually upset other people emotionally, and even physically.
Anger can cause serious problems in personal and professional lives. In a relationship, anger can cause breakdowns, psychological and physical trouble, criminal actions and other difficulties.
Of course, anger is a normal emotion and is the body’s way of reacting to upsetting events, but the inability to control anger can lead to the destruction of happy relationships.
Those who let anger persist in a relationship can be very disparaging. Carrying on an intimate relationship means living in close connection with each other’s personalities, likes, concerns and everyday habits. This level of familiarity can result in frequent clashes when partners begin to notice each other’s shortcomings. One partner (or both) may become more critical and short-tempered, putting blame for creating an uncomfortable life. If this increased anger is not dealt with, the relationship will suffer.
Even couples who truly love each other will begin to drift apart if they repeatedly become angry with each other. The happy times are fewer and further between, and there will be a point in time when an episode of anger erupts before the last one has been put to rest. Relationships cannot survive such conditions, so failures, breakups and separations soon occur.
Intimate relationships may be prone to angry incidents several times a day. To stop the upsurge of bad feelings, one needs to deal with anger the moment it starts to swell. In the same manner that living in a healthy environment means clearing away daily waste, clearing the mind of an angry mess as soon as it emerges will allow create a stronger relationship. The more a person allows anger to accumulate in a relationship, the harder it becomes to deal with. This jeopardizes the relationship in the long run.
Always remember that when anger is present in a relationship, intimate or otherwise, people turn from friends to enemies. It is not necessarily accurate to assume that anger comes up when we meet or deal with disagreeable people. In fact, it is the anger already living inside us that transforms the people we meet into foes.
Tagged with: anger management • personal relationship
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